Another one bites the dust. Governor Sanford of South Carolina had an affair with a married mother of two. I really do not understand why politicians find it impossible to keep it zipped… or do most men cheat, but we only hear about the politicians? But here’s the part that particularly interested me:
“I have developed a relationship with what started as a dear dear friend from Argentina. It began very innocently as I expect many of these things do, just casual email back and forth,” Sanford said. “But here recently this last year developed into something much more.”
Few people wake up one day and say, “Hey, I think I’ll destroy my marriage, trash my integrity, and break my spouse’s heart today.” They drift into it. What baffles me is how otherwise intelligent people fail to take steps to protect themselves from it. With regard to “casual emails,” for example, my husband and I normally cc: each other when emailing a personal note to an acquaintance of the opposite sex. We maintain good boundaries with other people and we don’t invest our emotions in friends of the opposite sex.
Can men and women be friends? Certainly. My husband is my best friend – the ultimate “friend with benefits.” But it is unwise in the extreme to invest your emotions and build an intimacy with someone with whom you can’t complete that intimacy. Even if you are never physically unfaithful, is there any way to have an intimate friend of the opposite sex without depriving your spouse of the emotional investment to which they’re entitled?
[Welcome, Anchoress readers, and thanks for the link! Click through for a thoughtful rant about Sanford and which critically important matters this scandal is distracting us from, and great link roundup.
Also: Michelle Malkin goes off. But I can't say I disagree; I certainly understand why she's angry and frustrated. If profanity offends you (and obviously it doesn't offend me, but I heard from an acquaintance yesterday who tried to make me understand why he's bothered by it...) then don't click through.]