Good advice for Jon and Kate:
Falling out of love is not a good enough reason to quit. No longer being able to communicate well is not a good enough reason to quit. Feeling trapped and held back from what YOU think is the most fun and fulfilling life for YOU is not a good enough reason to quit. That’s what God says to those who call Jesus their Lord.
Though I’m not a Christian, I am a child of divorce and I can’t emphasize enough that divorce is not, in 99% of the cases, best “for the children.”
Every time I read or hear someone divorcing offer that cop-out, I have to restrain myself from screaming at them/monitor/TV and telling them how it’s going to cause the children all sorts of (likely permanent if not crippling) harm and that, if they’re going to divorce, at least be honest enough to admit that it’s all about the two people getting the divorce, and that they’re putting their children last in this forumation.
Agreed. I also am a child of divorce, and it’s infuriating how avoidable it was, in retrospect. Thirty years and a whole lot of pain for all parties later, things have settled down. But the cost was high. And the reason things are hard on the children is that their battling parents choose not to act like adults. My daughter rarely saw conflict between my husband and me because we did our best to protect her from adult difficulties. We stuck it out – in large part because of the poor example of my parents – and now are extremely happy we did.
I wish everyone had your (and your husband’s) fortitude, Laura.